3-4-2004 - More of the Crud

We've got the crud again.

This time it's the stomach virus going around. The boy child has had the diarrhea and the vomiting and the general listlessness which seems to go with that. I called the BabyDoc yesterday and they said give him lots of fluids, pedialite and clear broths, when he stops vomiting give him crackers and toast to see how that goes. They said it lasts from between 3 and 10 days. Great.

The Husband and I have the nausea but not the vomiting. I don't have the diarrhea but I can't speak for him. Stuff like this never hits when we can just be sick. Today I have 11 hearings scheduled for my preference claims. The Husband has Parent-Teacher conferences again (I know, they seem too do that an awful lot) tonight and the GirlChild's school has the spaghetti dinner and the book fair. The GirlChild has, thus far, been spared this nasty virus. I'm hoping she will continue to remain well.

And to add insult to injury, there was a terrible storm early this morning and both the kids were up at one time or another. I went in to calm the BoyChild and the Husband went in to calm the GirlChild. It looks like spring is roaring in like a wet lion.

I had a kind of disturbing conversation with the GirlChild yesterday. I don't remember exactly how we arrived at this point but she said, "so, is that why, the BoyChild's BirthMother gave him away, because she didn't want him?" I've done a lot of reading on adoption issues. I know that adopted children grieve for the parents who "gave them away." I know adopted children have issues biological children don't have. But I was a little stunned.

I was brushing her hair and continued to do so. I said the BoyChild's mother let us adopt him because she was at a time and place in her life where she couldn't physically or emotionally take care of another child. It wasn't what she wanted to do but it was what she felt like she had to do for him, for her and for her other two children. I said she knew if she didn't that she wouldn't be able to successfully raise him and her other two children and so she made a plan for him.

The BoyChild's birthmother sent pictures when we finalized the adoption. The GirlChild mused as how she wished she had some pictures of her birthmother; I agreed that would be lovely.

I inquired if that's what she thought, that her mother let us adopt her because she didn't want her. She replied, "it feels like that sometimes." I asked her to let me know when she felt that way and we could talk about it if she wanted to.

We moved on. We talked about the newest boyfriend and the upcoming book fair. I hope I handled the situation right but I guess I'll never know.

Peace,

M&C0.